I remember how delicate and precious my newborns were like it was yesterday, even though my youngest is fast approaching his 8th birthday. Looking back I think of how special it was to have their tiny hands wrapped around my finger while I admired such a miracle, fell in love with their little gummy smiles and created such strong bonds.
I definitely miss those magical moments.
I never really had any offers of a babysitter back then despite the sleepless nights and lack of a social life, but even if I had been given the opportunity to have a night off, a child free evening, I wouldn't have accepted. I didn't want to miss out on anything and I felt it my duty to protect them and to be there at all times. I was scared that something may happen if I wasn't there 24/7 and it would appear I'm not the only mum that thinks this way from looking at the results of a recent study.
55% of mums don't trust anyone to look after their baby. This often includes partners, mother-in-laws and best friends too. As many as 1 in 5 cancel a well deserved night away from parenting duties to be with their child and nearly half of mums that do get to go out leave early to return home.
I didn't have a night out at all until Minxy was 2 and Jamster was just a few weeks old and I was still worried then even though they were just with their dad. I just couldn't enjoy myself fully.
Now that I'm a little older. and hopefully wiser, I'm still quite wary about who has the children and where they go but I have relaxed quite a lot. For their benefit as well as mine.
I think if the day came when I did have another baby (the Mr still can't be convinced) I would be able to be slightly more open for others to be hands on and help though. I think I would appreciate the rest and be less worried having two children already who have taught me so much as a mum.
When did you have your first night out after giving birth?
Who are you able to trust with your child?
*Research conducted between 4th September and 11th September by One Poll with 1000 mums taking part